The Mr. loves to work. I’m not talking he enjoys what he
does, which is true. He MUST work. Like
his father, Jared was born with this innate sense of busyness. They’re hands
have to stay moving. A project must be on the go at all times. Their mind must
be contemplating a solution of how to accomplish the task at hand. It permeates
their thoughts to the point where they even dream about it! Then, when one
thing is completed there is no lapse onto the next project. Actually, there are
always half a dozen projects on the go at any given time.
One could see how this could be a challenge in trying to
establish a pattern of routine marital bonding.
Early in our marriage Jared and I began a regular bedtime routine. With our equally busy
schedules, the children and his education and now employment, we take the time at the end of the
day to prepare for bed together. It’s OUR time. We go over our day, voice
concerns, touch base on calendar events, current projects, and individual
children’s needs. You name it, it is discussed. This is all done while we brush
our teeth, groom, but most importantly bathe together.
When we purchased our first home four years ago I knew we
needed a decent tub, of course money and existing space was a factor but the
splurge was made to accommodate such an important aspect of our marriage
routine.
Jared laying the tile with Mila looking on.
Most every night we enjoy soaking and bonding, touching and
talking. I have found this routine most prioritizing important the longer we
have been married. The stresses and responsibilities of life only increase as
time does. There are many heavy things on our minds. But as we continue with
this pattern I feel our tie to one another grows stronger, our respect and
understanding increases. Its not to say everything is smoothed over and
resolved in those moments, wouldn’t that be nice? But our ability to cope and
our love for one another firmly remains intact.
The Mr. loves to prepare the bath; run the water and most importantly add the bath salts!
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